As far as my spiritual research has gone, one definite action that one must take When attempting to initiate a Mind-Meld, in contrast to how Star Trek "presents" it is continuously chanting the Mantric Phrase: My Mind To Your Mind. My Thoughts To Your Thoughts. We Are One.
Whereas on Star Trek, the people will only say this Mind-Meld Mantric Phrase once, they are perhaps at a higher evolutionary phase (considering they are in the future). The only other option is that Star Trek "cut" out most of the philosophical Mind-Meld ritual, so to not "bore" people, or to shorten the show within a designated interval of time. The story would not be as concerned with the philosophy of the one Vulcan culture, as it "more briefly" displays all the cultures that the Enterprise and Voyager come upon.
One thing to consider is: What is the purpose of this meditation? One example: If a person cannot remember something important, concentrate on what you seek while you connect to them (with their permission, of course...), and you might wind up feeling a vague sense of the thoughtform, important to the situation, to a dramatic vision (if the person was witness to a violent and terrible crime).
Overall, as far as my spiritual instudies have gone, I would naturally see people in reality chanting the Mind-Meld Mantras.
...Or -
At least in this Era...
For a possible Mind-Meld Meditation Exercise, check out the links in the StarMed Index.
Remember to go with what feels best for you, and listen to your body...
